Humans are made up of patterns. Patterns that can shift, change and improve. These patterns can be harmful if these patterns are unhealthy, especially in a relationship. Read my article to know more about how this can affect you as a person.
But what are the kind of unhealthy relationships that are persistently causing disruptions? What can you do to identify and change it?
Friends and clients have spoken about how they feel compatible with their partners, yet they feel that there is scope to change or mould their partners to make the relationship even more perfect. Somehow, there is always a sense of hope that the other person in the relationship should change for the better. Although, change and improvement is one of the reasons of a successful relationship, this should never be a reason to begin a relationship. Every individual has their own traits, and a relationship based on the hope of change is a ground that is way too unstable for a strong home.
Knowing or imagining a life with a partner and thinking of the future with them is great. But what about the present? What critically goes wrong in a lot of relationships is the thought of a happy future, which is loosely based on the present; which is the truth. While this can be quite difficult to understand, most of us cling on to ‘what could have been’ rather that the ‘what is happening’. Assess the present as it is and look for a practical future, which makes the both of you happy, individually and together.
Recent studies have stated that couples who post a lot about their relationships on social media tend to lack happiness with themselves. Turns out, speaking about your relationship on social media, or engaging in a lot of affection in public results in seeking for external validation. Having boundaries and keeping communication open in the relationship and expressing to each other will help enhance the relationship and avoid any other sort of validation
A relationship is always give and take. There is balance and harmony is equally working things out and contributing to the effort of maintaining the relationship. Although, having said that, there will be times where a third person or a counsellor will need to play a role in improving your relationship. Do not hesitate to make that call and know that there are always concerned people who are there for you.