What is bullying? Bullying in simple terms is a group of children who try to offend someone else by putting them down. This is often experienced everywhere and no matter how the situation is, bullying can make you feel depressed, hurt and can keep you lonely. The mundane activities in life get twisted and become a challenge to enjoy.
Bullying is something every child faces and becomes a part of growing. Often times the words that are said make a lasting impression and can take a life-time to heal. This can sometimes lead to teasing, which in turn becomes a habit. The experience that a child goes through can be either:
- Verbal (Demands, Threats, Insults, Name Calling)
- Psychological (Rumours)
- Physical (Beating, Stealing, Violence)
Bullying has become such a common phenomenon which parents tend to overlook- “Get tougher” “They are friends after all” “Oh common don’t let this trouble you” are the phrases we frequently hear at homes.
There is no particular time frame when a child can be bullied. It can happen anytime as early as preschool which can sometimes go on till high school. Those who are being bullied experience a state of feeling rejected and shy. This makes it hard for them to stand up for themselves because they lack confidence.
If your child is the victim of bullying, there are high chances that he may suffer emotionally, or even physically. Grades drop because, instead of paying attention to the teacher, kids are wondering what went wrong and they are preoccupied with the thoughts of having friends. If bullying is not looked into and measures to prevent it are not taken, it can create a feeling of insecurity that can be detrimental for the child.
Research has shown that bullies face difficulty forming positive and secure relationships. They tend to abuse drugs; can be abusive spouses and neglectful parents. Counselling can help them overcome their issues and help them work towards a state of emotional wellbeing.
If you notice your child is being bullied or is being teased, look for these signs
- Frequently crying
- A sudden drop in academics or other learning problems
- School becomes less enjoyable
Here are some ways that could help your child:
- Allow room to open up- Let your child voice out their feelings
- Help your child cope with such situations
- Bring this to the notice of his teacher/ principal in school. Find out if there were similar issues earlier. Look for an opportunity to know how your child behaves in school as well. Follow up on your child and the teacher as well.
- Allow your child to visit a counsellor who might be able to guide your child through this situation.